“What leads to strife (discord and feuds) and how do conflicts (quarrels and fightings) originate among you? Do they not arise from your sensual desires that are ever warring in your bodily members? You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled; [so] you become murders. [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.] You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war. You do not have, because you do not ask” (James 4:1-2)
Yup…*raising my hand* Guilty.
Awareness has become my friend. For without first awareness, nothing will change. Have you ever read something and looked around to see if someone is watching you? It couldn’t have been written for the masses because it is so …me…is someone watching me…did someone write this for me…are they waiting to see my reaction? (I looked around after reading this 😉
I know and am now becoming very aware of some of my shortcomings. I am jealous. I think that I am the one that is supposed to step-up and take care of these things. I even catch myself wishing bad things for bad people, or maybe they aren’t even bad people but I justify my jealousy or anger toward them by thinking that they are. I now know that this needs to stop. I need to continue retraining my brain in as far as this bad trait that I have. I know that catching this train of thought before it leaves the station will eventually transpose into not even thinking this way anymore. Perpetuating bad thoughts creates more bad thoughts, nothing good can come from it. I choose therefore to eliminate these types of thoughts.
Law of Substitution: Cannot think about two things at the same time, replace negative with positive. Law of Dual Thought: We can attach any feeling to any thought that we want. Law of Growth: Whatever we think about grows, what we forget atrophies.