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“What leads to strife (discord and feuds) and how do conflicts (quarrels and fightings) originate among you?  Do they not arise from your sensual desires that are ever warring in your bodily members?  You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled; [so] you become murders.  [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.]  You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war.  You do not have, because you do not ask” (James 4:1-2)

Yup…*raising my hand*  Guilty.

Awareness has become my friend.  For without first awareness, nothing will change.  Have you ever read something and looked around to see if someone is watching you?  It couldn’t have been written for the masses because it is so …me…is someone watching me…did someone write this for me…are they waiting to see my reaction?  (I looked around after reading this 😉

I know and am now becoming very aware of some of my shortcomings.  I am jealous.  I think that I am the one that is supposed to step-up and take care of these things.  I even catch myself wishing bad things for bad people, or maybe they aren’t even bad people but I justify my jealousy or anger toward them by thinking that they are.  I now know that this needs to stop.  I need to continue retraining my brain in as far as this bad trait that I have.  I know that catching this train of thought before it leaves the station will eventually transpose into not even thinking this way anymore.  Perpetuating bad thoughts creates more bad thoughts, nothing good can come from it.  I choose therefore to eliminate these types of thoughts.

Law of Substitution: Cannot think about two things at the same time, replace negative with positive.  Law of Dual Thought: We can attach any feeling to any thought that we want.  Law of Growth: Whatever we think about grows, what we forget atrophies.

The 7 Day Mental Diet


The source of guilt is the devil.  WOW…epiphany!

Making people feel guilty about anything is not a part of God’s plan.  The source of guilt is the devil.  He is the accuser of people…according to the Bible.  God will convict us of acting wrong or making wrong choices, but He never tries to make us feel guilty.  Guilt presses us down.  Godly conviction brings us an opportunity to change and progress, to become aware and adjust.  We are not built for guilt and God never intended His children to be loaded down with guilt and so our systems do not handle guilt well at all.  If we have to drag all the accumulated guilt from all our past mistakes along with us, well…we would never make any progress toward true freedom and true joy.

My future has no room for my past.  How much time do I waste feeling guilty?… not anymore!  This was an important awareness for me as I always, I mean I used to, should have, could have, would have myself.  I describe it now as the red pencil syndrome, concentrating on what I screwed up instead of what I did right.  I’ve broken my red pencils and have purchased new green ones.  Spending time dwelling on past mistakes is something that God has told us not to do.  No one is perfect.

I give myself permission to let guilt go.  I will focus on what I do right and, by the Law of Growth (Whatever we think about grows, what we forget atrophies), I will start doing a lot more right.

Long live and grow the green pencil!!!

Spiritual Guidance

Something that struck a nerve with me and has forever been an internal battle in my mind: Religion. ~ the belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power, especially a personal God or gods. ~ a particular system of faith and worship. ~ a pursuit or interest to which someone ascribes supreme importance.  Hmmmmm.  How does that word make me feel?  ~ Uncomfortable.  What does that word mean… to me?  I am Jewish.  What does that mean?  Am I programmed a certain way, suppose to believe in something or someone particular?  Why am I labeled Jewish?  Because my parents are…my parents decided for me…  Why is anyone “labeled” anything?  Isn’t religion an internal or personal feeling or belief?  Since I watched this video, it has stuck in my head…it has created questions, just what I need is more questions in my head…*sigh*…more to think about…  Jim hit the nail right on the head in as far as church and what it is suppose to be.  Days later, Rich and Jeremy bring up exactly what Jim talked about and remind me of my own questions about this whole topic.  Why do we have to fit into a label?  Why do I have to be Jewish…or Catholic?  Why can’t I just be me and live from the guidance of God?  Why do I have to pay my dues to be a part of the Temple or be baptized to be a part of the church?  Why can’t I just be an unlabeled me and strive to be the best I can be every day?  I am really enjoying the lessons I have been learning and the people I have been meeting.  I want to share what I learn with everyone and it is not under the label of anything, no hidden agenda…just living from a happy, pure heart, learning how to perpetuate loving thy fellow man…giving more getting more…an attitude of gratitude, happiness, fulfillment and harmony.


Live Each Day

Are you living a life of quiet desperation?  It’s more of an awareness thing rather than calling you out.  Okay, how about: Are you living the life that you want?  Be honest now.  Would you do what you do every day even if you were not being paid for it?  Answering yes to that would tell me that you are living life the way you want to.  You are in your bliss…living your dharma…and that is freaking awesome…I am happy for you.  If you aren’t, join the club, but don’t make excuses for it.  Instead, choose to do something about it…before it is too late!

Ever since I watched Steve Jobs Stanford Commencement speech, I have a new awareness…a new perspective that I try very hard to maintain.  The words that changed how I think about the decisions that I make now:

“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like, “If you live each day as if it were your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.”  It made an impression on me… and since then, for the past 33 years I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today.”  And whenever the answer has been, “no” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.  Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything: all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure… these things just fall away in the face of death… leaving only what is truly important.  Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked; there is no reason not to follow your heart.

Look in the mirror every morning and ask myself:  IF TODAY WERE THE LAST DAY OF MY LIFE, WOULD I WANT TO DO WHAT I’M ABOUT TO DO TODAY?

Your playing small does not serve the world, there is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you!